Question

How can I handle a bad situation with my boss?

Over the last few weeks my boss has been acting very abrupt towards me and has made a snide comment towards another employee that I should f*** off and get another job when I mentioned during a break that sometimes I get mad(after others had said so too) but hadn't told off anyone yet.

And the other night during our break, he accused me of being a thief after my son had ate some lollies at my workplace(I work in supermarket) but I had the money to pay for them at counter, which I did. My boss also said that if he ever saw me or one of my children doing something like that in front of him, he would kick me out of the supermarket.

I have not stolen anything of course and I really respect the place where I work and love my job, but my boss is getting me down & I feel intimidated by him and reluctant to go to work now. How can I handle this?

Answers

It's a known fact that when a boss wants to get rid of someone, they make it very "unpleasant" shall we say, for the person they want out. They make it their business to completely unnerve a person and make their lives miserable. I have seen this happen in many office settings and other jobs as well.

My best advice to you is if your boss makes derogatory remarks to you, don't get upset and remain as calm as possible. Don' start taking sick days (that would be a big mistake). Make sure that you're doing what you're supposed to be doing and doing it well. Don't give him any fuel for the fire. Keep your kids out of the store.

If you can work overtime or volunteer, now would be the time, as this would be to your benefit. He just wants you to get very upset and leave abruptly and they won't have to pay any unemployment benefits. Don't give him any opportunity to criticize you.

* In the event that things can't be worked out, try to find a new job before you quit your present job.

** I wouldn't put up with this situation either, but when you answer these questions on Yahoo7, you never know the other person's exact situation. Not a healthy environment to work in at all.

In my answer I stated remain calm, which is different from quiet. I've seen this type of situation before and worked for someone like this (glad to say it's history).

As far as your kids in the store, it sounds like if he wasn't yelling about them, he'd find something else to yap about, so probably best you're not staying. Good for you.

Good luck!

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My son and a bunch of his friends recently lost their jobs ~ and oddly enough, it's because all their bosses made the work environment quite hostile which forced them into quitting. Here in the US, if you quit your job, you aren't entitled to unemployment benefits ~ until you can prove that the boss was "out to get you" which is very tough to do.

So, in this economy, you need to keep that job and not give your boss a reason to fire you. Keep your kids out of the store (they have no business there, sorry) and be as pleasant as possible.... And for Pete's sake, don't say anything derogatory about your boss or your job to anyone since co-workers love to gossip, especially if they think it will win them points with the boss.

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