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First, it is essential to note that there is a clear distinction between hurting someone and administering pain. Inflicting pain on a disobedient wife will help her grow spiritually, correct her misbehavior and become an ideal Islamic wife. It's better that a husband beat his wife than someone else hurt her.
Second, it's important to note that a Muslim man cannot wantonly beat his wife. There must be a legitimate reason. And, he must beat her for the sole purpose of helping her, not sadistic gratification.
Third, there are limitations on how harsh the beatings can be. The beatings must not elicit any blood. The husband is forbidden from breaking her bones as well.
Let's say that a Muslim husband is dealing with a disobedient wife who refuses to wear the Islamic veil. Even worse is the fact that she puts on make-up and wears somewhat revealing clothing. Wife-beating would be permissible in this case. Actually, it should be the husband's duty to beat his disobedient wife who refuses to dress modestly, because it is quite clear that she has been influenced by Satan and is in need of serious correction.
Some people might cringe at the thought of a husband beating his wife. Again, I must stress the importance of a husband administering pain as a means of helping his wife mature spiritually and becoming the ideal Islamic wife, which is not the same thing as hurting her.
if the woman is disobedient. allah says the man may hit her. but only very lightly
HE IS NOT TO KEEP A MARK. this is the view of the vast majority of schoalrs
If her husband orders her to breastfeed men and that she refuses, she is being considered a disobedient wife.
Prophet Muhammad order his young wife Aisha to breastfeed a number of bearded men who were not her relations. If you don't believe me, please check out facts in the Hadiths. You can find it all there.
Lectures on Hadiths regarding breastfeeding in Islam
Assalamu alaikum wa ramatullahi wa barakaatuhu sister,
"As to those women on whose part you see ill?conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allaah is Ever Most High, Most Great"
and when it says beat - it means tap/hit lightly with like a miswak.. so not punching and kicking and slapping and 'beating' up your wife..it's like a tap of a miswak which should not leave a mark...
OKAY it is not that men can beat up their ways. did Prophet Muhammad (sal Allahu alayhi wa salaam) or other Prophets (alayhi salaam) do that? no... first talk to them and explain to them civily and properly, then admonish, then show other signs like refusing to share a bed, and last should be to tap them lightly.........but verbal communication should be first and foremost as it is recommended as the first action in al-Qur'an
if this helped, Alhamdulillah
good tafseer, Mash'Allah: http://www.livingislam.org/fiqhi/fiqha_e…
Talk to her with wisdom and beautiful preaching and argue with her, in the ways that are best and most gracious.
But if she just doesn't listen and goes on being disobedient.
Admonish her, basically stop talking to her.
If she still is disobedient.
Dont share bed with her, basically do not sleep on same bed with her.
If she is still discobedient.
Touch/beat her lightly. I understand beating sounds hursh when people hear.
So basically like when you want to get attention on someone, you touch them, or tap on there lap or something. So you get there attention.
If that still doesn't work, then this might go into divorce.
You can divorce before even touching her to get her attention.
I mean the first 3 things, talking, then admonishing, then not sharing beds with her. That should be enough, but some you have to touch touch/beat them to get there attention.
Let me tell you just one Ayah on this matter.
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property). As to those women on whose part you see ill?conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great (34) If you fear a breach between them twain (the man and his wife), appoint (two) arbitrators, one from his family and the other from her's; if they both wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation. Indeed Allah is Ever All?Knower, Well?Acquainted with all things. (
we live in an age of equal rights for men and women so no longer do women have to obey their husbands. what an outmoded concept that is what about the disobedient husband in that case