I have a real Jerry Springer situation here...?
ok that was a bad joke but here it is... from the beginning
last month my husband and i decided to try an open marriage. We were a bit rocky and wanted something new and fun. Don't think that this is a big jump from before because we have had threesomes and such before.
I work at a strip club and met a guy... a customer... and agreed to meet him on my day off... i can read people pretty well and figured he would be ok.
We went out on sunday may 16th. Slutty me was so into him that i slept with him that evening. What made me feel bad was not that he wasn't my husband. It was that i hadn't told him that i was married. *important note* he didn't have a condom.
This "other guy" is now technically my boyfriend. And yesterday i find out i'm pregnant.
Yeah i'm not sure if it's my husband's or my boyfriend's.
ok now here is my issue... if i find out it isn't my husband's... do i tell my boyfriend? or do i pretend it's my husbands and not say anything?
Also, here are my issues... my husband is my love but he is irresponsible, terrible with money, shitty at his job, and i always feel like i'm "mothering" him more than loving him. my boyfriend is super responsible, clean, proud of what he does and is good at it, he is stable, but i don't know if i could love him. it may develop but not yet.
logically i should go with the boyfriend due to lifelong security, but i love my husband.
hubs and i have been talking about splitting for a while and we fight all the time. but since the recent development (prego) we have tried to work things out. i'm wondering if its worth it. i mean when i told him i was pregnant he just said "ok?" even tho we had been trying for 2 years prior... he always said he wanted a child... yet now that it's here, he acts like it's not important. he didn't show even a glint in his eye that he was happy.
I 'know' that if i were to tell my bf that i was pregnant, he would hug me and cry with happiness. he already has one child and would LOVE another.