I feel your pain and here is the solution. First of all, are your parents still living? If so, what do you feel is your responsibility towards them in the event that something similar happens to them? You need to really try to be more understanding here. Since you read your Bible, surely you know that the Bible admonishes children to care for their aging parents. It's a responsibility handed down directly from God to man. If your husband has other siblings, perhaps they could all get together and discuss the needs of his parents and evenly distribute the responsibilities. Next, I would strongly suggest that you put your 2 year old into Day Care and go to work. It will get you out of the house if only for a few hours a day and make you feel like a productive citizen. It will also keep you so busy you won't really have time to fret about all that's going on. Try one date night a week as well since you need your husband. His parents probably won't be living much longer so this saga won't be an ongoing thing for you to have to deal with. Stay calm, keep up what you're doing, either get a job or start socializing with others as a temporary way out of this situation. Peace!
Hmm. You are having some difficulties because you still haven't "grown up" yet, and he's got the cancer (so is probably going to die)....how could he POSSIBLY imagine he needs his attention more than you do? What a mean fellow!
(Not to worry, if you keep this up he'll probably get tired of it and leave...problem solved!)
your not being selfish, your being very reasonable and need to talk to him. He cares about his parents a lot and you know that, but you should come first, always. I bet his dad would do the same thing for his wife,
it's a delicate balance, but yes, he should realize that his parents are there for each other and that he has his own family now. That being said, it is very difficult to be away from your aging parents. I have lived away from my parents for 21 years but my husband got to live near his parents the whole time until they passed away. Now that my parents are getting older, I do feel the need to go visit with them, but only for a few days. If he abandons you and his children for extended periods of time, he's making a mistake. Raising 3 kids is not easy and he needs to realize his place as husband and father. His parents probably would tell him the same thing because anyone in a long term marriage knows that you have to recognize priorities at all times.
I do think you're being selfish. You're fairly young I'm assuming since your husband's mother's mother is still alive. You're having an anxiety issue, okay. I've had it my entire life. Your husband's dad is sick & he's concerned. When my husband's mom got ovarian cancer, everything stopped & that was fine by me. You're supposed to be his rock when he needs it. It's not always the husband that has to be strong for the wife, you know? And I'm sorry but you're a stay at home mom? And then when your husband gets home from work he still needs to help you with everything? Honestly, suck it up & move on. I can't believe you were pissed because he was concerned about his mother's state of mind. When you're older & god forbid your husband becomes ill, would you appreciate it if one of your children's spouse was not okay with taking care of you guys? Unbelievable actually.
least hes not putting his friends over you, have a long talk like you just did here with him