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What to do when you aren't "ready" but he is?

im a Sophomore in high school and my BF of 10 months is a year older. its obvious he is a typical teenage boy. very hormonal. and that's something i can understand seeing as to how i am as well. my opinions on having sex with him are that im too young and not ready. However he is. he hasn't pressured me its just im starting to get nervous that he either wont stay with me or will start to pressure me. i feel guilty and im not sure what to do. can anyone give me some insight?

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Decide what will make you ready. You state that you're too young and not ready. Decide what's your minimum age. Decide what other factors would lead to it being the right time for you. For example, for some people they want to be married and at minimum, 21 years old. Give it some thought and decide what factors are important to you. If you're not sure, ask people whose opinion you respect, such as your close friends and/or parents and/or siblings (depending on your situation.) If you don't feel comfortable talking about this with anyone, seek someone who you can trust confidentially to speak with, such as a school counselor or therapist. Once you decide what criteria must be met before you'd even consider it, then you'll feel confident and you will also most likely feel more at ease discussing this with your boyfriend. If you don't even feel comfortable talking about it with him, you definitely should not be doing it with him. And in the end, if it's so critical for him to do it that he breaks up with you, then he was not worth it. In the meantime, don't let this take over your mind and don't let it stress you out. Be confident that he will continue to respect you and the timing that is right for you. If he pressures you at all, simply tell him that you're not ready and you'll let him know when you are, but for the time-being, you'd appreciate it if he doesn't pressure you. If he proceeds to pressure you, break up with him, let him get it out of his system and allow yourself to find a man who respects you and your decisions.

#1

if he ever tries to pressure you into it, or he'll 'leave you', you're better off without him anyway.

you said it yourself, you aren't ready! its actually a mature way to be, because most teen girls would be spontaneous and do it anyway.. if they think he'll break it off.

keep to YOUR morals. its your life. you have the choice over what you do with it.

my advice, wait until your older. wait until you find that one that you reallllly love, and that loves you BACK.

be smart, girl. don't let him talk you into it if you're not ready.

enjoy lifeee! :)

#2

don't let him talk you into something you're not ready for. you're only going to get more mature and older, the time will come when you know you're ready for something so special and intimate. of course he'll have every excuse in the book but don't let it sway you if your gut is telling you to wait.

i wish i had waited. i wish someone had told me that it was ok to make him wait. it's your body and if he respects you enough to wait til you're ready, he's a gooood man.

#3

Honestly, stay true to yourself. It's MUCH more mysterious and hotter to a guy who TRULY values you if you dont give it up at a young age and so quickly.

Nearly ALL guys that are teens are ready, so taht is regardless.

Find where your line is. There are ALOT of thigs you can do without full on sex, and still being safe.

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#4

DON'T LET HIM PRESSURE YOU INTO DOING SOMETHING YOU DONT FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING SUCH AS SEX, HE KNOWS YOU ARE NOT READY BUT YET HE STILL PERSISTS, INSTEAD OF UNDERSTANDING AND RESPECTING YOUR DECISION ON THE MATTER HE SELFISHLY IGNORES YOUR FEELINGS AND ANNOY YOU , ITS TIME TO LET HIM GO, HE WILL CONTINUE TO BEG AND PLEAD, YOU DON'T NEED A GUY LIKE THAT

#5

If he really cares about you, then you shouldnt have to be worried about it. Don't stress over it, because you'll fidn that your more worried about it then he is. Has he ever told you that he wants to sleep with you? if not then don't worry about it. sometimes you may think that he wants something when he doesnt. My advice talk to him about it, and tell him your veiws.

#6

don't do anything your not ready for. simple as

if he doesn't respect that your ready hes not worth being with.

maybe try oral sex, this will help his urges but also not pressuring you into sex

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#7

Girl, i know, but you need to tell him with a firm tone and say " I ma not ready" and if tries that if u love me or anything like that dont fall for it, if he really loved you like he said he does he would wait for you, if he leaves you get over it and find you someone else because you deserve better if he is just gonna leave you because your are too young and not ready to have sex and he obviously doesnt care for you.

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